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Sometimes I can’t help but wonder why, in our supposedly modern society, it’s still considered a must for women to wear make-up, while men don’t have to. I’m sick of it. Why is my pale, spotty face to be covered up and made pretty, when guys aren’t expected to do the same? Guys can have spots. Guys can have circles under their eyes. Guys can have unnoticable eyelashes. Guys can grow hair everywhere they like and be hip.
Why am I expected to wear make-up when I go out to a club or go to a party? Why do I have to wear foundation and mascara and blush (and apparently also bronzer and highligher and all of these things I don’t even know how to apply)? Why can’t I just look like me, ghost-white (occasionally greasy) skin, circles under eyes and all? I dislike the standards history and society has set for women. I dislike the standards women set for other women.
Now, some might say, “but you don’t have to! Just don’t wear it! Who cares??” Well, basically everyone cares. People won’t look at me the same. They’ll say I look like shit without batting an eye. They’ll say I look tired, am I getting enough rest? Or, why didn’t I cover that zit with some concealer? Or, you’re looking pale, are you feeling alright?
I’m fine. I’m just pale. With chronic dark circles under my eyes. I’ve always looked like this, and I probably always will.
Another thing: I keep seeing these headlines everywhere in magazines and so on, with women asking some “specialist” whether or not men will be turned off by female pubic hair. Because apparently today it’s the norm to shave everything off. Personally, that creeps me out – seeing a completely shaved vagina. It looks wrong to me. Freaks me out. But if guys are used to seeing shaved vaginas, then will they be shocked when they see a tiny bush down there?
This is what women who are newly single want to know these days. Will they not like me if I am not shaved downstairs?
I have to say, this question bothers me. I want to ask these women, What do YOU prefer? It’s YOUR body!
As you might have guessed from above, I prefer not to shave downstairs. To me, it’s just unnatural and uncomfortable. And I may not have been intimate with that many guys, but I’ve never ever heard anyone complain about my hairgrowth. Not ever.
Besides, I’ve never seen a completely clean-shaven penis before (at least not in real life. A picture online, probably). I think I would be equally disturbed by it.
Back to the point. Is it not possible to change this outlook? Is it not possible to stop judging people if they’re not wearing make-up?
I’m not gonna lie, I do sometimes enjoy putting on make-up. But it’s just the process I enjoy – it’s like painting a picture on your face! But I don’t like wearing it.
Feel free to let me know how you think of the matter. Is make-up really that important? Is hair downstairs really such a big turn-off?
The Elephants in the Room 